I was going to quit my job. Instead I did this.

I stopped telling myself this negative story.

Youth sports are too competitive.

Youth sports are not fun anymore.

Parents only care about winning.

Children are overscheduled and I am just making it worse by requiring so much of my athletes.

I can’t be a good mom if I am working.

Traveling for work throws my family into chaos.

This narrative about youth sports is predominant in our culture. People talk all the time about parents being crazy and athletes being entitled. Also, there are so many confusing messages about being a working mom. But, is any of it really true?

It doesn’t matter if the story we are telling ourselves is completely bogus. We will find “proof” everywhere that it is true.

One upset parent? There’s my proof.

One stressed out, overscheduled kid? There’s my proof.

Bad sportsmanship after a defeat? There’s my proof.

My kids throwing tantrums and fighting with each other? There’s my proof.

Was this story really serving me or the athletes I work with? Was this story beneficial to my family? Was it true?

No, no, and no.

I decided to start telling myself a different story.

Creating an intentional culture in youth sports is desperately needed.

I can work with my co-director, manager, and coaches to offer our athletes self-awareness and empowerment tools that will help them rise to their potential and grow into the next generation of fierce and compassionate leaders.

We can continuously add value to our program and create a place for children to learn to be better athletes and better versions of themselves everyday.

Our work with them can help offset the stress of school.

Parents want to see that their children are being cared for and they want connection with their child’s coach.

Demonstrating full immersion in my passion, and all the ups and downs that come with it, is one of the greatest gifts I can give my children.

This is the story I tell myself now. And, you know what?

I find proof everyday that it is true.

Massive love,


3 thoughts on “I was going to quit my job. Instead I did this.

  1. Kelli Bishop says:

    Hi Ashleigh,
    My name is Kelli Bishop & I read your blog post through Meg Boyle, who posted it on the Energy Barre. I had to reach out to let you know how genuinely appreciative I am for it. I am not a mom yet, but as a teacher & coach of middle school athletes, I find SO much value in your words. Thank you for being the change we need most in the world!

    • Ashleigh says:

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment, Kelli! I am happy to hear that the post resonated with you. I have some upcoming posts about parental support and the affect it has on the teachers and coaches who work with their child. Would I be able to reach out to you for some feedback on how it applies to your situation?

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