One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was this:
Never count someone else’s money.
Don’t do it. Don’t even try. You really have NO CLUE what is going on in someone else’s financial life. Their business may be making a killing, or…they may be running it at a loss to offset another source of income or an inheritance.
That fancy car? That expensive private school tuition? Someone else may be footing the bill.
Every purchase may be adding to the credit card debt, or may be paid for with cash.
You just don’t know.
(And if you do really think you know, ask yourself, “Is this my responsibility?” “Is this really my business?” I would bet it’s not.)
It stuck with me. It stuck with me as a reminder to not make assumptions and to just quit with comparison.
We really don’t know.
This concept has evolved into a personal commitment to not count anyone’s anything.
Don’t count someone else’s problems.
Don’t count someone else’s blessings.
Don’t assume that anyone is in an easier situation than you.
Don’t assume they are in a more difficult situation.
Don’t waste any energy dissecting their life. Just don’t do it.
Next time you have the urge to start a conversation in your mind or with another person that involves making assumptions about anyone else’s ANYTHING, just stop.
Remember, you really don’t have a clue. And it’s likely not your responsibility to do anything about it, anyway.
And let that energy be spent on counting your blessings, instead. Really, you are the only person in the world who has the authority to do that.
So do it, please. Because that really is your business.